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As a teacher with nearly 80 private students, it feels like stepping into the front line in a war every day. I have students who can't talk, meaning they are so hesitant to speak that they don't speak at all. I have students who have rare heart conditions, or some form of autism, or can't look anybody in the eye. Some parents are desperately trying to fix the situation by getting their child to respond to, "How are you today, Addison?" The parent gently says, "Addy, tell him how you are doing." Some parents are MIA, and leave it to the poor grandparents (themselves utterly unable to comprehend a world where kids don't speak) to teach basic manners. These grandparents can't understand why children act like glitchy robots. Occasionally, there are times when I feel like I'm in Hell. What did I do in my former life to warrant watching innocent 5-year-olds struggle to speak or wrestle with a heart condition?

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

If you've experienced abuse, bullying, manipulation, belittling, etc., you recognize it instinctually and are deliberate in placing trust carefully.

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

hmmm. like transporting gordon from that particular time to the present? to take someone from 1959 and plunk them into this world would certainly be interesting, but a very short lived tragedy. likely shot dead by cops at the nearest canadian tire demanding to buy a 12 gauge without following the 'proper steps and procedures'.

the 'powers that shouldn't be' were cautious of those men. public schooling has made them dinosaurs. their cherished concepts of freedom and self reliance, cute reminders of a geological era long buried under the dirt.

peace

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Great read as usual and will be linking it today @https://nothingnewunderthesun2016.com/

Also wanted to get back with you about your article the other day "Hot Air" where we touched on the alien card subject. Patrick Wood at Technocracy News had a good article about this as well that I wanted to share with you and your readers, I am linking it today as well or you can go directly to it - @https://www.technocracy.news/john-podesta-the-trilateral-commission-link-to-ufo-alien-mania/

It's pretty interesting.

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

I really liked the article…it addresses much of what I have been conflicted about…where is the line between thinking positively and ignoring the darkness, finding peace in the moment AND fully realizing what is happening and being immersed in concern and sorrow about the current situation? I truly think there is a way of honoring the sacred moment of right “now”, and making peace of being the priority AND also being aware of what is happening in the world. From not being immersed in the fear of it all, I am thinking from a place of peace there is more strength and power to DO something about it all…That being said, I struggle with this way of being constantly. This morning I just read a letter to the editor stating every bit of misinformation out there…ie. Masks prevent Covid, Ivermectin worthless, etc. I want to squash that person…and her audacity to write such lies! So no peace for me at the moment…but I will work on finding that peace again and from that place figure out how to respond to such a letter. I don’t think this is “thinking positively” about what is happening…I think it is way deeper than that…but I have a long way to go. Just reread this comment…sounds a bit “preachy” I know nothing…just writing to try and understand!

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

"It is a closed system."

Very true for the entire internet now where our 'opinion or response' requires a sign-in procedure.

This is sold as a way of controlling spam, but it's also a great source of verified social-emotional data that may be used to "steer" the conversation (using fake personas) and strategy in real time.

Our best defense against the machine is constructive engagement with each other that builds rapport, the algorithms don't as yet comprehend empathy.

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

Having never been a best case scenario thinker, I have always found it amusing when the positive thinkers excuse a potentially dangerous situation by saying "It's never happened before." To which I reply "Until it does. That's why it's called the first time."

In economics the Laffer Curve demonstrates a point in which higher taxes fail to raise tax revenue. Perhaps it is being applied psychologically - how much can they push until there is pushback.

Healthy skepticism has all but disappeared in the minds of most. It's like the old joke:

"I heard they removed the word Gullible from the dictionary. Is that true?"

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

I have found that being raised in an alcoholic household, where they drank away all the money and where we were always walking on eggshells around them helped me to not depend on them, or anyone really, for safety and support. At an early age, I developed the skills to question everything and to try to read the motives and intentions of others. It has helped me immensely - except for the fact that I too became an alcoholic. So I have questioned a lot of things over the years that others have gone along with.

As to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, an excellent example of what happens when people are knocked down several pegs is the recent movie Triangle of Sadness. It's even up for Best Picture. I guess you could describe it as a horror movie for the rich and famous.

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Todd Hayen, PhD, RP

it's been going on for a very long time. here's a great old clip from when journalists had some independence and opinion. plus i love the way people used to talk.

https://www.cbc.ca/player/play/1766195241

ultimately it didn't matter. the experts speak, the sheep follow. daddy only hurts you because he must. for your own good.

peace

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Exactly Todd. “It will all work out. - don’t worry”. How many times have I heard that in the past 3 years🤦‍♀️. And I don’t think the rest will wake up until they start losing their material things. Bang on with that one I think.

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